The only thing more addictive than any drug….
I once believed that a person could not have too much serotonin, and that the more serotonin a person has, the happier and loving they are. With time I learned this is not the case.
Dorothy Tennov in her 1979 book Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love, has described something interesting as Limerence — “an involuntary interpersonal state of mind that involves an acute longing for emotional reciprocation, obsessive-compulsive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and emotional dependence on another person.”
Some identify limerence as infatuation++, lovesickness, or romantic love, while others relate it to love addiction. Some have humorously called it affection deficit disorder.
While it is rare for two people to be passionately in love with each other at exactly the same time , however about five percent of the population struggles with limerence and I am one amongst them, soaked in the lifetime of romance 😊
I am limerant in my existential sense. Meaning uncontrollable romantic obsessions and fantasies towards a desired object (called the Limerent Object or LO) with which I may want to establish a romantic relationship. Emotional connection and intimacy are very important to me. I love the opportunity of depth that can be achieved in a relationship. I love knowing someone so well that I can guess what they’ll do or how they’ll respond to something. I may love letting someone know me so well that I feel I can let down my guard and just be myself.
In a limerence state the reality appears beautifully different, revolving in and around something unknown and it’s felt everywhere(mostly in mind ;p ) .
There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. —Albert Einstein
While in Limerence state the sense of intuition for thing’s and people around is profoundly impacted. I for one share affectionate thoughts with the stuffs I own, or I buy (that’s the reason I don’t own a lot of stuff). Although a minimalist I carefully and mindfully choose my needs. The Love and happiness comes from inside, it comes from a small institutive place of satisfaction in me.
I smile towards my intentions, I smile towards my thoughts , I smile for myself , for my ego that tries so hard to empower the deficiency in me. I wonder if this is what they called “Beautiful Mind” or rather “the dirty mind”? From Shakespeare to Sigmund this deficiency hints the hidden realm of psych.
Dr. Helen Fisher discovered that the brains of people in limerence resembles the brains of cocaine addicts. It keeps you high forever. It takes you to a trip that only you can afford and indulge in. The trip that only a true psychonaut can experience.😆
It’s Not the serotonin but the absence of serotonin that answered most of my questions on Life, of Life and about Life…..